If you are at all open about your sexual life, you ultimately will find yourself judged (especially women). It isn’t a surprise when it happens from your extreme vanilla friends or that church-going neighbor, but it really baffles us when it comes from folks who don’t fall into the mainstream of society when it comes to sexual behavior.
This is why we wanted to share this Alternet article written by Dr. Zhana, What’s Wrong With Being Really Sexually Promiscuous?
There is no doubt that, among the general population, promiscuity is almost universally considered a bad thing. It seems like every day there is a new example of slut-shaming, often with tragic outcomes; the sex addiction industry routinely labels all promiscuous people as having a problem; and studies show that over 70% of college students would lose respect for someone who “hooks up or has sex with lots of people.”
But anti-promiscuity stigma also often comes from those who themselves embrace alternative sexual lifestyles, often as a way to justify their own—less promiscuous—alternative lifestyle and, consciously or unconsciously, make it more palatable to the general public. Because anything, anything, is better than promiscuity.
Have you encountered this stigma in your own life? Can you remember times when you yourself may have contributed to this stigma by shaming someone else? We would love to hear from you!